Return of the Deaf Geeky Guy

I was hacked a couple years ago, then was unmotivated to get the site back online.

Recently, I made the decision to get this site back online and start writing again. It’s been a while since I used Word Press, so bear with me as I figure it out. I plan on putting out a new theme, links, stuff like that.

Bear with me as I slowly get this site back online.

Website Update

I’ll be working on this website to make it more mobile friendly. It seems like more people are on mobile than they are on desktops or laptops. I also need to get the Deaf Geeky Guy banner up above that I have on my Facebook page.

So bear with me as I try a few different themes and layouts over the next few days as I try and figure out what works and doesn’t work. If anyone is familiar with WordPress and would like to offer suggestions to make it more mobile friendly, please feel free to comment below.

Stay tuned as I work on this. Thank you πŸ™‚

Invisible Disability Awareness

[Image Description:] A drawing of a girl standing and looking at the “camera”. She is smiling.
Artwork credit to the awesome Destiny Slater


Take a look at the image above. Try and guess what disability the person in the drawing has.

You can’t guess, can’t you? That’s the point of this drawing created by Destiny Slater. In this drawing, the girl has an invisible disability, which is something that we cannot see on the outside like we would if we saw a person in a wheelchair or perhaps a blind man with his walking cane.

There are too numerous invisible disabilities out there for me to list here, but I’ll summarize a few as follows:

Developmental disabilities such as autism – There are many types of developmental disabilities in which the person may appear normal on the outside, but in the inside, the person may have autism, Asperger’s or other types of developmental disabilities.

Mental Illness – Again, on the outside, the person may look normal, but on the inside, the person could be dealing with depression, bipolar disorder, and many other types of mental illnesses.

Chronic Illness – Some people have some sort of chronic illness such as cancer, cystic fibrosis, etc. in which they may appear normal on the outside, but are battling their illness on the inside. For example, the girl above in the drawing could very well be undergoing treatment for cancer. You just don’t know it because she could be wearing a wig. Or she could have chronic fatigue syndrome (CFS) in which she gets tired easily and needs a mobile scooter to get around.

Those are some examples, but there are lots more invisible disabilities out there. So when you see what appears to be an able bodied person get out of her car legally parked in a handicapped space, please do not be so quick to judge her as she could very well have CFS.

And with that said and with Halloween coming up, I would like to end this article with this public service announcement.

[Image description:] A drawing of a pumpkin with the following words written on it:

With Halloween fast approaching. please keep this in mind:
The child who is grabbing more than one piece of candy
may have poor fine motor skills. The child who takes forever to
pick out one piece of candy may have motor planning issues.
The child who does not say “Trick or Treat” or “Thank You” may be
non-verbal. The child who looks disappointed when they see
your bowl of candy may have a food allergy. The child who is
not wearing a costume at all may have sensory processing
issues or autism.

Be kind. Be patient. It’s everyone’s Halloween.

Thank You To My Readers

The Deaf Geeky Guy is slowly coming along. It’s only October 17, but according to my website statistics, it has already exceeded the amount of monthly visits that it did in September.

Thank you, everyone, for getting the word out and sharing my site and social media accounts.

Also a big thank you to Rikki Poynter for re-tweeting my blog about the No More Craptions. A lot of my October visits were due to that retweet because of her 5,500 followers on her Twitter account.

Keep spreading the word as I continue to advocate for the deaf & hard of hearing on Deaf Geeky Guy. Follow me on Twitter and Instagram @realtoddfonder and keep spreading the word.

Tomorrow, I’ll be in Madison for the Here to Hear Tour featuring comedian DJ Demers. I hope to live tweet from there.

Until then, stay tuned. πŸ™‚

Do I Want My Hearing Back?

Jessica Flores and Rikki Poynter, both deaf YouTubers, each posted a video about the subject of wanting their hearing back. Being deaf myself, I’ve been asked this question myself and I’ll come right out and say it – the answer is a resounding no.

A bit about myself – I’m a 50 year old who has been deaf since age 2 when, long story short, I had a nasty ear infection. I have a 90% hearing loss in my left ear. I don’t wearing a hearing aid there. I have a 75% loss in my right ear, which has a hearing aid. I can hear most things with that ear, though I still cannot hear high pitched sounds such a smoke alarm. I could be standing next to the smoke alarm and still not hear it. Though I can hear a phone ring from across my house if the phone ringer has a low enough pitch. I can also “talk well for a deaf person” – more on that in a future article.

Back on topic, you hearing people must think I’m nuts for not wanting my hearing back, but I’ll tell ya, if there was a genie that could grant me only one wish, it wouldn’t be to get my hearing back. There are other things in the world to worry about, but that’s a topic for another discussion.

Yes, I realize I’m missing out on things if I was a hearing person. I do have some limitations at my job such as not being able to take phone calls. I cannot follow a group discussion between my hearing friends. But for all the disadvantages of being deaf that I’m going through, I actually prefer being deaf due to its benefits of being deaf.

In addition to that, if I was hearing, I wouldn’t be able to advocate for the deaf & hard of hearing, right? I mean, I can’t think of a hearing person that advocates for the deaf off the top of my head. Which means, I don’t know of one that does it. So I do it. I probably would not be likely to advocate for the deaf if I was hearing.

To sum it up, I accept myself for who I am and would not change it for anything.

I hope that answers your question.

Stay tuned – I hope to post a new article each day. Follow me on my Facebook page for updates.

Facebook Page Created

I added a new Facebook page for the general public to complement this blog. That page will also have updates whenever I update on Instagram, YouTube, or Twitter.

Click the Facebook icon on the upper right of this blog if on a desktop computer. If you’re on a mobile device or tablet, the icons are at the bottom of this blog. I’m working on a new theme that will place the icons on the top of the page instead of the bottom for mobile devixces, so bear with me on that.

You can also visit the Facebook page at

Today, I was supposed to write about my hike at Will Rogers State Park, but that will be put on hold for right now. A couple topics came to light recently that I wanted to write about. I hope to get both articles posted later today.

Stay tuned for further updates. I’ll post on my Facebook page when the articles are posted. Thank you πŸ™‚

Los Angeles Vacation – Visiting My Family

This post is waaaay overdue, I know.Β  But as I explained a couple posts back, Blogger was giving me so many problems to the point that I didn’t want to write on Blogger anymore. Now that I have WordPress, which is a lot easier to write on, I can finally finish writing this.

Today, I’ll write about meeting my dad and sister. First, I’ll talk about meeting my dad. He picked me up from the airport on Monday July 17 as I wrote about in a previous post. After we left the airport, he took me around to see some sights. We went through a town whose name escapes me at the moment. But pretty much every house in the neighborhood had roofs like you see in this photo, which is a stock photo from the Internet. I do not claim any credit for it. I thought that was pretty cool and I felt like I was in Mexico – LOL.

We ended up going to a place called Hennessey’s Tavern, located over in Hermosa Beach. It is an Irish style pub that serves breakfast, lunch, and dinner. We went to an outdoor patio located on the second floor overlooking the Pacific Ocean. It was an awesome view. There were several volleyball courts near the tavern and a lot of them had some 2 on 2 action going on.Β  I didn’t take any pictures there because of my no-phone policy when I’m meeting someone one on one in a sitdown place. I’ll talk about my no-phone policy in a future post, but anyways, it was about 11am Pacific time. My body was still on Central time, which would make it 1pm for me, but I decided to have breakfast anyways. I ended up having scrambled eggs with toast and breakfast potatoes. It was a very delicious breakfast and the breakfast potatoes were especially very good. In fact, the best breakfast potatoes that I ever had. I just now made a mental note to post a good review on Hennessey’s Tavern on a few of the review sites like Facebook and Yelp. But I’ll say this right here – if you are ever in LA in the Hermosa Beach area, go to Hennessey’s Tavern. You will not be disappointed πŸ™‚

My dad talked to a customer sitting at a table next to us and asked if she could take a picture of us and she did as shown below.

After we ate, we decided to take a walk by the beach. We had some time left on the parking meter anyways. I took a coupleΒ  pictures at the beach. The first one is of the pier. Lots of people around that day.

And the next picture is of the beach itself, looking north of the pier.

According to a nearby lifeguard station, the water temperature was in the mid 70’s. Near the beach, a temporary arena was being built for an upcoming beach volleyball tournament. There was enough seating to hold a few hundred people if not more. I thought that was cool.

We then left and went to Palos Verdes. There, we stopped at a museum called the Point Vicente Interpretive Center. The following is a quote from the website that I just linked.

This beautiful park, located adjacent to the Point Vicente Lighthouse, offers recreational and educational opportunities to the public.

The Interpretive Center opened in 1984 with a mission to present and interpret the unique features and history of the Palos Verdes Peninsula. The almost 10,000 square foot newly expanded Interpretive Center, re-opened on July 15, 2006, features exhibits on the natural and cultural history of the Peninsula, with a special emphasis on the Pacific gray whale. This premier whale watch site provides spectacular opportunities to view the annual migration of the Pacific gray whale, from December through April.

It was indeed a beautiful area. IΒ  learned a little about whale watching. Unfortunately, the whales weren’t out at this time, but I do have plans to return to LA in the near future so I can see them. We also went to see a huge battleship called the USS Iowa, I believe. I forgot to upload the picture of the battleship from my phone, which is currently charging at the moment, but I’ll post the picture of the battleship in the near future.

He took me back to my hotel after that as it was a long day for me. We made plans to get together on Wednesday (this was on a Monday) as he lives over in Orange County, or the OC as the locals call it.

Tuesday night, I met with my sister Kate for the first time since she was a little girl about 25 years ago. We went to an Italian restaurant called Fritto Misto, located over in Santa Monica. It was small, but busy. We didn’t have to wait long for a table though. I just had a simple spaghetti plate with marinara sauce. My god, it was one of the spaghetti dinners that I ever had, if not the best. In fact, nothing around in my hometown could even compare to this. Just no contest. This place was awesome and I still have to make a review for them as well on Facebook and Yelp.

I got to know Kate as well as more about my dad’s side of the family. I also got to meet Kate’s 4 year old son, RJ, who is an awesome little kid. After we ate, she took me through Santa Monica for a little sight seeing and we even visited the famed Gold’s Gym on Venice Beach for a photo op. That photo is on my Facebook profile for my family and friends only. After that, I went back to my hotel to rest up for the next day.

On Wednesday, I met with my dad with plans to go to the Griffith Observatory. We parked about a mile away from the observatory so we can hike up there. Hiking is what I enjoy doing. I forgot to load my GPS unit with geocaches for this particular area so I didn’t get a chance to geocache on this trail. I will next time I visit.

Anyways, the trail was steep at times and we both had to pause for breaks a few times during the hike. Follows are a couple pictures of the observatory, taken from the trail. We still had about a half mile to go from the point of this picture.

And the next picture, we were still a quarter mile away from the observatory.

And yes, for those of you who have played the video game Grand Theft Auto V, that is the same observatory where the Galileo Observatory is in the game, right down to the last detail. When I finally reached the observatory, I felt like I was in the game itself – LOL.

Once at the top, we visited the observatory inside and also explored the grounds. We even went to the roof, where I took a selfie of myself with the famed Hollywood sign way back in the distance behind me. The sign is to my right. You can barely see it, but it’s there.

We thought about hiking closer to it as there was another trail that leads to it, but we both were tired after the hike and decided to hike back to his vehicle. The hike down the hill was easier than the hike up, but we still had to be careful as it was steep at times and me with two bad knees that tend to buckle at times if going down a hill. The knees held up well and didn’t buckle once. Props to my doctor for a job well done doing surgery on one of my knees when I tore an ACL 10 years ago.

After we left Griffith Park, we went to a place called In and Out Burger. I never had their burgers, but my dad said they have the best burgers ever, so we went to the location near the LAX airport. The place was super busy. Imagine a new fast food place that just opened up for business and customers flock to it to try the new place. But I was told this place was busy like that every – single – day. I was shocked. They even had a security guard at the door to help maintain order.

The menu was simple – just hamburgers, cheeseburgers, and fries along with beverages. We waited about 15 minutes or so for our food, then we ate outside to watch the planes land and take off since we were next to the airport.Β  While we were eating, a massive C-130 military plane made a landing. The plane was fucking huge! I’ve never seen anything like it and both my dad and I were like, “Holy Shit!”. We both marked out over that plane.

After we ate, I took a couple videos of a commercial plane landing and a commercial plane taking off. I still have to edit the videos and upload them. When I get those videos done, I’ll post them here. And as for the cheeseburgers that I ate, I’ll say this – best cheeseburgers that I ever had. Even better than Mickey Lu’s, located here in Marinette, so says my dad – LOL.

He took me back to my hotel, where we said our goodbyes since I fly back home the next morning. I had a great time getting to know my dad and hope to see him again next year.

Thursday morning, I met with my sister Kate again for a quick breakfast before I have to go to the airport. We talked a bit more, I got to know a bit more about her family, then it was time for her to go to work and me to the airport. I had a great time with Kate as well even though I didn’t see her as much. I hope to see her again in the near future. I had a great time in Los Angeles and will definitely return.

On my next post, I’ll write about my solo hike at Will Rogers State Park in more detail.

Stay tuned πŸ™‚

Work in Progress

Looks like I’ll go with this current layout for now. It seems to be more mobile friendly than the previous dark blue layout that I once had, which was not mobile friendly.

Tomorrow, I’ll put in a custom header banner, but for now, the gray banner on the top will suffice.

Coming up on Monday – I’ll finally finish writing about my trip to Los Angeles that I took last month. Now that’s procrastination πŸ™‚

Upcoming in the near future – In addition to writing on here, I will do videos as well. I’ll do them on my YouTube account and link them here. Just a matter of doing some practice videos first to make myself comfortable, then when I feel I’m ready, I’ll do the video blogs in addition to writing on here. This will be a bigger project and might take a few weeks at the minimum. I already have the video editing software and know how to use it. I also have a video camera and a tripod. It’s just a matter of being able to present myself on camera, which I’ve never done before.

Stay tuned πŸ™‚


New site – Same old Blog :)

Good morning. If you have found this blog either from my previous site or happened to come across here by accident, welcome and thank you for stopping by. πŸ™‚

Previously, The Deaf Geeky Guy blog was over on Blogger. But I was having several issues with Blogger. Among some of them:

  1. Composing and editing – There were times when I was having issues in composing a journal entry on Blogger on both the desktop and mobile version of Blogger that I got frustrated to the point of not writing journal entries anymore. The page would not load or when it did, it would not respond if I tried clicking on something. Sometimes I would have to reload the page in order to get it to work and I was getting pissed off.
  2. Comments Section – A few people have said to me that they were unable to leave comments on my blog over at Blogger. I tried different settings, but still no comments. I had not written an entry for weeks when someone recently found my blog by accident a couple days ago and tried to make a comment, but couldn’t. Luckily that person told me on Facebook just the other day. I knew that was the last straw and decided to cut all ties with Blogger.

I did some research and decided WordPress was the best way to go. It was just a matter of deciding whether to get a free WordPress page with limited control on what I can do there. Or getting my own domain and have more flexibility on what I want to do with it.

I decided to get my own domain. I found a hosting site, registered the domain, and had WordPress installed on it. With my own website, I can do a whole lot more with it. I can make this site just a blog or a full fledged website. I actually have plans to make it the latter, but for now, I’ll do with the blog.

Back on Blogger, I saved my entire blog and had it imported here. Every post I made on Blogger is also on here for those of you who are new to the party πŸ™‚

I’m still working on figuring out WordPress and I’m also looking at other themes that I can use for this site. The theme that is up now is just temporary until I can find one that I like.

I’m liking WordPress right now, but if WordPress doesn’t work out, no problem. Because I now own this site, I can do what I want with it. If I wanted to, I can remove WordPress and put in another app to host my website such as PHPBB or something else. The sky’s the limit for me here.Β  DeafGeekyGuy is not going anywhere even if the layout may become different. Websites change their layout all the time and mine will be no different.

Now that I’m back to the blogging world, I’ll resume my writings about my Los Angeles trip that I took last month. I’ll do that on Monday or Tuesday when I’m off work.

Stay tuned πŸ™‚

Los Angeles Vacation: The Traveling – Part 2

Yesterday, I wrote about my flight to Los Angeles. Today, I’ll write about my return home.

That morning, I said my goodbyes to my sister before she had to go to work (I said goodbye to my dad the day before as he lives an hour away in Orange County). After saying my goodbyes, I went for a morning walk by my hotel, then decided to go to the airport early.

I went to my room, packed my clothes and did one final inspection of my room to make sure I didn’t forget anything. I then checked out at 9am and requested a Uber on the Uber app (more on Ubers on tomorrow’s post).  The Uber arrived within minutes and I was at the airport within 15 minutes. Traffic was not too bad. 

LAX is a huge airport and the terminal itself was huge. I had no idea where to check in to get my boarding pass. But thankfully, an American Airlines employee saw that I looked lost and approached me and asked if I needed help. I said I do need help and said I needed to check in. He asked if I had a boarding pass. I said I don’t. He took me to a self check in kiosk. But I didn’t have my paperwork with me with the information on it that I needed for self check in. 

“No problem,” said the employee. “Follow me.”

He took me to the check in counter to an open register and asked for my drivers license, which I produced. Within a couple minutes, he printed my boarding passes and told me where I needed to go. I thanked him and headed for security. I actually had to go three security checkpoints before getting to my gate.  The first two were simple – I just had to produce my boarding pass to prove that I’m a passenger and was allowed through to the main TSA checkpoint.

Having gone through security back at Appleton, I know what to do now and was ready. I passed security with no issues and soon, with two hours or so still to kill before boarding, I took my time walking and following the numbers leading to my gate. Once I located my gate, I decided to get something to eat. I stopped at a restaurant called Sammy’s Woodfired Pizza. I thought about getting  a pizza, but I didn’t want to wait too long. The restaurant was packed, so I ordered a simple breakfast of 2 eggs with white toast and breakfast potatoes. It was good. I paid my bill and headed for my gate with still 90 minutes before boarding.

The gate area was packed, full of people waiting for their flight to Honolulu. I knew a  seat would open up once the Honolulu passengers started boarding, so I picked a seat at a bit away from the gate itself.

I sat down and look at the American Airlines app on my phone for another update to see if my flight is still on time. That’s when I got my first travel advisory. Severe storms are impacting Chicago at the moment, which may affect travel for inbound and outbound flights at Chicago. I had the option to rebook at no charge because of this. But I declined the option. 

I checked the Weatherbug app on my phone and took a look at the radar. Sure enough, a nice sized cell was heading right for Chicago. It was all red on the radar.

I alternated between reading my tablet and checking the app for updates.  My flight is still on time. So far, so good. Soon, the passengers for Honolulu got up to board and I raced for the nearest seat by the gate  After the Honolulu plane left, the gate agents left and soon after that, the new gate agents came in for the Chicago flight. I informed one of the gate agents that I’m deaf and will need to hear my group number. No problem, the agent said. He would let me preboard. I felt kinda bad having to board before everyone else, but if American Airlines would post the “Group Number X Now Boarding” on the monitor, I wouldn’t have to do that.

Flight leaves at 1pm. It is now 12:40pm, typically time to board. But we didn’t start boarding until 12:50pm. I knew right away that the flight is now going to be delayed. But no alerts on my phone just yet. I boarded and got to my seat. At that moment, I received my first alert via the app to my smart watch – the flight is now 10 minutes late. It will lake off at 1:10pm. 

I had the window seat and soon my seatmates arrived – a pair of women traveling together. The alerts continued on my phone. Flight now departs at 1:20, then 1:30, then 1:40. I was like, shit. I said out loud to myself, “Damn, I’ll be cutting it close to my connecting flight.”

My seatmates heard me and one of them said, “Us too.”

I asked them, “Where are you going?”

“Appleton,” they said.

“Really? Me too,” I replied. What are the odds? Over 200 people on the plane with odds that they are either going to Chicago or connecting to somewhere else and my two seatmates are both going to Appleton.

We talked for a little bit and made a game plan together on making it to our gate at Chicago. I checked my app to see what gate I would have to go to so I can plan my route. As it turns out, the gate for the Appleton flight got moved further away than it originally was and I was like, shit! That means I got more ground to cover. The plane finally took off around 1:40pm PT with an ETA to Chicago of 7:50pm CT. My flight for Appleton leaves at 8:30pm CT. Both my seatmates and I knew there were no margin for error at this point.

My seatmates and I made a game plan to connect to our Appleton flight, which is basically to run like hell and whoever gets there first, to let the gate agent know that the others are coming. The plane landed about 20 minutes earlier than expected, but it still took a while to disembark as we were at the back of the plane. But once off the plane, we all ran like a bat out of hell to make our connection.

To get an idea of how far we had to go, download the interactive map of O’Hare Airport and choose Terminal 3. We got off at gate K19 and had to go all the way to gate G21. We ran fast enough to give Usain Bolt a run for his money. My legs, already sore from two days of hiking, were cramping up. But I kept going. We all made it to the gate together with 5 minutes to spare. 

Once on the plane, my seatmates and I gave each other a fist bump for our victory in making to the gate on time. My legs were sore, but I had such an adrenaline rush from all that running that the cramps didn’t bother me. 

The flight took off on time. It was right at sunset too, but my seat was on the east side of the plane, so I couldn’t get a good view of the sunset. But from what I could see, it was beautiful. As we flew over Milwaukee, it was dark and I could see the pretty city lights below. It was awesome!

It didn’t take long for the plane to touchdown in Appleton. The flight was so short that we all had to stay in our seats. The flight was basically in takeoff and landing mode the whole way.. Once off the plane, I said goodbye to my seatmates and we went our separate  ways. I went to pay for my parking, got my receipt and began the walk to my truck. Once by my truck, that is when I breathed a sigh of relief. I was very happy to be in Appleton after the close call of the late flight from Los Angeles. I had a decision to make – do I drive home or get a hotel? I still was wired from the flight that I decided, fuck it, let’s go home. 

I showed my parking receipt to the parking lot agent and was on my way. It was About 9:45pm at that point. I thought to myself, I’ll make it to Marinette and Menominee by 11:15pm easily. How wrong I was.

I reached the Northland Ave. exit in Appleton on I-41 and there was a traffic jam. I was like, you gotta be fucking kidding me. This is not Los Angeles. It’s is nearly 10 at night. why would there be a traffic jam at this hour? My first thoughts were either an accident or road construction. I did recall reading some lanes of  Northbound I-41 to be closed off in Appleton for repaving or something like that. It was indeed construction as one northbound lane was closed.

We plodded along at like 5-10 mph, sometimes stalled at times.The highway opened up back to two northbound lanes at the State Highway 47 exit (also known as Richmond Ave). It took me a half hour just to go three miles. Traffic opened up after that and I soon was driving at 70mph again, slowing down to 55mph through the construction in De Pere, but at least I was moving.

I decided to stop at George Webb in Peshtigo and made it there at 11:15 pm. I was famished, not having eaten since my breakfast back in LA. While waiting for my food, I thought to myself, what if I missed my flight to Appleton? What if I had to rebook? I looked at the American Airlines website on my phone for the next day’s flights. The next flight to Appleton would be for 11am, which meant an overnight stay in Chicago. I’m so glad that didn’t happen. I didn’t know if American Airlines would give me a voucher for the hotel or if I’d had to pay out of pocket. But I didn’t have to worry about that.

After eating my meal at George Webb, I was home by 12:15 am. It was one of the longest days of travel that I’ve had to endure in my life, starting with leaving my hotel at 9am PT/11am CT and finally arriving home after midnight 13 hours later.

But you know what? I’ll do it again πŸ™‚ I’m looking forward to my return trip to Los Angeles in 2019.

Tomorrow, I’ll talk about my first experiences with the Uber service. Tuesday and Wednesday, I’ll cover my visits with my dad and sister. 

Stay tuned πŸ™‚